PhD: life altering experience
Yes. Your life gets ‘altered’ after doing a PhD. You don’t know what is even you are looking for in a career. Another six years of slaving in postdoc? Does a ‘assistant professor’ opportunity opens up in the middle of nowhere? Or you are gonna do ‘adjunct professorship’ for pizza money?
You probably don’t have a spouse because it’s harrowing to watch a dead person (PhD) nagging about opportunity in short life. You live like a ghost, whose existence is often denied, you are probably not even aware that you exist in any meaningful way.